This quest of finding purpose feels futile to me for quite a long time. Unfortunately, the more desperate I was, the more confusing it got.
Like any other person on a quest, I searched everywhere. I journaled, I read books, I talked to people, I listened to inspiring speeches. I even Googled! But – nothing. It got more confusing.
What I forgot to do is to search in one place that I usually avoid – within me.
By grace of God, instead of avoiding, I mustered the courage last year and set the intention to start the journey of discovery. I am happy to say that there are glimpses of ‘purpose’ that I found in this journey and my intention here is to share some of the key lessons with you.
What are my three key lessons in ‘finding purpose’:
- Semantics is important. I have now learnt that the way I frame and define ‘purpose’ is critical. I found that purpose is not about ‘doing’ but it is about ‘being’. I have since then re-framed purpose as “what do I intend to be and how will I show up on a daily basis, using my unique gifts”. Instead of pressuring myself to be the hero and saving the world, now I define my purpose as someone who gives a voice in conscious living and positive parenting / leadership. The compass helps when making small decisions on a day-to-day life. (These decisions add up!)
- I did not find purpose overnight. It is indeed a continuous journey. But once I reframe it as ‘being’, it took away the expectations to find THE purpose. What is more important is to be open and curious in the journey, allowing it to unfold naturally. I have never expected that allowing myself to be curious and to play is the best way to connect the dots. It still amazes me how things unfold when I decide to be curious and take the next step (which most of the time seems ridiculous at times. This blog is one of so many examples of curious ideas that popped up.
- Purpose requires commitment. We all have a unique gift to express but without fierce commitment and discipline, a vision will remain a vision.
In summary, what I found in this journey is that purpose is created consciously, one at a time. It blends our strengths, our joy and our contribution. It requires commitment. It requires me ‘to be’. Sometimes, I need to let things unfold and see the magic. Yes, a departure from my expectation when I started 🙂
So, what’s yours?
One thought on “Finding Purpose – a futile search?”
This topic is so close to heart. Been on the quest for mine since 2016.. one thing I found constant is change (so cliche 😅) as our role changes over the years..
I initially broke it into the relationship around me, kids, parents, spouse, God, team in office, society etc then it became too much and out of focus 😂
I am still working on mine but I guess knowing our purpose or the need to have a purpose, its impact to people around us, helps to motivate us to stay on track.. without purpose life will be on auto pilot and without meaning..